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Understanding Your Autistic Brain

  • Writer: Erin Taylor, LCSW
    Erin Taylor, LCSW
  • Jun 27
  • 4 min read

Updated: Jul 2

A Guide to Your Unique Wiring


If you're autistic or think you might be, you've probably been told that you're too much, too sensitive, or not trying hard enough. But what if the issue isn't you? What if the world just wasn't built with your brain in mind? You are not alone in feeling this way. Many autistic people share this experience and find comfort and strength in recognizing that their needs are valid. Your brain isn't broken or flawed. It's autistic, which means it runs on a different operating system than neurotypical brains. This system has its own unique strengths, processing styles, and needs. Understanding how your brain is wired can help you work with it, rather than against it, and build a life that truly fits you.


Let's explore some of the key features of the autistic brain.


» The City Analogy: A Differently Connected Brain

Think of the brain as a big, busy city with lots of roads.


Neurotypical brains tend to have a balanced network of local streets and major highways. It's relatively easy to get information from one part of the city to another.


Autistic brains often have an abundance of highly detailed, super-efficient local streets within specific neighborhoods (parts of the brain). This is called local over-connectivity. At the same time, there might be fewer or less-trafficked major highways connecting distant neighborhoods. This is known as long-range under-connectivity.


What this can feel like:

Strengths and Abilities

(The "Super-Local Streets")

Challenges and Differences

(The "Fewer Highways")

Incredible attention to detail; you notice things others miss.

Feeling overwhelmed; too much information coming in at once can feel like a traffic jam.

Deep, passionate interests; you can focus intensely and learn everything about a topic you love.

Difficulty with rapid task-switching; it takes time to leave one neighborhood and drive to another.

Strong sense of logic and pattern recognition.

Slower processing speed on some tasks; it might take a moment for information from different brain areas to sync up.

Unique problem-solving skills.

Interoception; it can be hard to hear signals from your body, like hunger or needing to use the restroom.

Takeaway: Your brain favors depth over speed. Accommodating that style can reduce overwhelm and improve functioning.


» A Bottom-Up Processing Style

Many neurotypical brains use top-down processing. They start with a main idea and then fill in the details.


Your autistic brain likely excels at bottom-up processing. You start with the details, the raw sensory data, and build your way up to the main concept. You gather all the puzzle pieces first, then you see the whole picture.


What this can feel like:

  • You might need all the information before making a decision.

  • You might find vague instructions confusing and prefer clear, literal, step-by-step guidance.

  • You may excel at precision and fairness. You are not swayed by assumptions because you are focused on the actual data in front of you.


Takeaway: Your detail-oriented thinking is a strength. You build accuracy from the ground up.


» Monotropism: The Power of Deep Focus

Monotropism is a theory that describes how the autistic brain tends to focus its energy on a narrow range of interests or activities at a time. This deep, immersive attention style can make it easier to enter a state of flow when engaged with something meaningful. Think of it as having a powerful spotlight of attention, whereas neurotypical brains may use more of a floodlight.


What this can feel like:

  • Deeply engaging passions. When your spotlight is on something you love, you can enter a state of flow that is incredibly productive and joyful.

  • Difficulty with interruptions. Being pulled out of your attention tunnel can be jarring and stressful.

  • Challenges with divided attention. Juggling multiple conversations or tasks can be exhausting because it requires splitting your single, powerful beam of focus.


Takeaway: You focus deeply and intensely. Creating an environment that respects your attention style can help you thrive.


» The Social Experience: The Double Empathy Problem

People once believed autistic individuals lacked social skills. A more accurate concept is the Double Empathy Problem.


This theory says that communication and empathy are a two-way street. When two people with very different brains and life experiences interact, they can both struggle to understand each other. It’s not a deficit in one person. It’s a mismatch between different operating systems.


You don't have a social deficit. You have a different social style. You may communicate more directly, value deep conversations over small talk, and show care through actions rather than words. These qualities are not shortcomings; they are strengths that enrich the diversity of human connection. These are all valid ways of connecting.


Takeaway: You relate in your own way. Finding people who meet you halfway can build more authentic connections.


» Putting It All Together: Thriving With Your Autistic Brain

Understanding this wiring isn't about finding excuses. It's about finding explanations that lead to solutions.

  • Honor Your Sensory Needs: Your brain processes sensory information intensely. If you are sensitive to light, sound, touch, smell, or movement, it's okay to wear sunglasses inside, use noise-canceling headphones, or choose soft, familiar textures. This is not being picky. It's regulating your nervous system.

  • Create Predictability: Routine and structure reduce stress. Use calendars, visual reminders, and checklists to help your brain feel less overwhelmed and more organized.

  • Lean Into Your Passions: Your interests are more than hobbies. They are sources of expertise, motivation, and regulation. Make time for them. They are central to your identity.

  • Advocate for Your Style: You have every right to communicate your needs. Try saying, "I need written instructions to do my best work" or "I connect best in quiet, one-on-one settings."


Your brain is a valid variation of the human mind. It brings valuable ways of thinking, sensing, and relating that are essential to the richness of human diversity. Your perspective is needed, your strengths are real, and your experience is worthy of respect. By understanding how your brain works, you can build a life that is not only functional, but also authentic and fulfilling.

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